It can be hard when you first get married to start a new life together. People think of it as something magical; it even shows up in Carpenter’s songs. But there is a reason they say that the first year is the hardest. You need to work out how you will celebrate traditions and live your lives while integrating parts of each spouse’s past. Get some tips here for how to cope and work with each other’s traditions.
Talk About It
One of those questions to ask is, “How can I make the holidays special for both of us?” You probably know by now that the only way to survive as a couple is to strive to put the other person first. You have to be selfless. Sometimes this results in women never buying anything for themselves or men thinking that they have to take a backseat to every decision. This is not the case at all. You need to both decide on things. Talk about anything that is important to you. The more you communicate, the more open and understanding you can be with each other.
Don’t just let things go. When you do this and let the frustration fester, you are more likely to have bigger problems in the future. Take care of problems or hesitations before they become more serious issues. This will keep you happy and intimate. Sharing is the best thing you can do for a marriage, so practice sharing.
Putting Up Holiday Decorations
This is your new life and your new home. Put up seasonal decorations that represent both of your roots and your own new family. Pick up new ornaments and pieces of decoration each year to add to the pile. Settle on the way you will be spending your holidays.
Pick A Place
Decide on whose house you will go to for each holiday. Will you split up Christmas and Christmas Eve between the in-laws, or will you celebrate alone as a couple? It can be a good idea to start having your own celebrations at some point. Some people wait until they have children for this. They spend every holiday with someone’s mom and dad to have something to do. This is perfectly fine. Just make sure that you both agree on what is best for you.
No Hard Feelings
Hard feelings about family members can sour a marriage and take a long time to heal. No holiday or visit is worth that. So if you cannot compromise on whose family to visit, stick together to form your own tradition. Something silly like Chinese food on Christmas or romantic like a certain hotel on New Years can be a tradition that you carry on each year, for the rest of your lives. Traditions can keep a consistency that is needed for children and a joy that is wonderful for spouses.
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